i'm in mood to read and be updated so web-search is great. i browse bulletin, phil. star and inquirer online even pep for entertainment news. and because i so heart candymag before i did checked it out too. i'm blogging this because i took their weekly quiz and its: how hard do you fall? well, based on my answer this is their interpretation: Scaredy-Cat. Past experiences and horror stories from friends leave you too scared to fall in love. Burst out of your cocoon and take the risk! Who knows? Your happy ending may just be waiting to happen.
i find myself agreeing. why? back in college some of my friends shared their stories about their bf , how intimate they were [as in detailed where below 18 are not allowed to hear] how bad it ended and how they really suffered from it. after all my friend had given to the guy;he doesn't give her some respect that is due for her even for the sake of not being branded as a kiss and tell guy. and swear even i thought that what he felt for my friend was real. from then i realized you'll never really know how true the guy with his intention. alright giving some benefit of doubt because i also know that there is also nice guy a true gentleman but sometimes can't help become a jerk because he saw someone else he loves more than his present relationship that he once thought she could be the one for her the rest of his life, how about that? still negative huh...we'll see i definitely want to have a family of my own and it start with having a relationship. the sad part i am not getting any younger...tsk..tsk..tsk.

i added new links of somebody work in call center. i check on their blogs and its really cool since i like to know more about call center and somehow be familiarize because i got a plan of working there in the future, hopefully. hate saying "got a plan." Most often than not my plans didn't get materialize so i stop planning. But everything start with a plan.

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*Focus*

I admit that's hard for me to have a hundred % focus when listening to someone. My mind goes to somewhere else when I got bored especially when it's too detailed and I already heard what I wanted to hear. Most often when I’m in that situation I pretend listening but I learn later that I was not a good actress in a pretending role. One time the person I'm talking to unfortunately noticed that and it became an issue to raise against me when we had a fight.

One of the worst embarrassments one can get into is when you misunderstood a person because you did not listen to him well and because of that you tell a totally different story. It became a little controversial because of some speculation you make to it believable enough [what a sewer mind!] eew but that happens to me, before. Haaay, needless to say I got few little troubles about that. Good thing it did not became a warlike thing since I have known as quite, kind and good person, ehe. They just let it passed. Whew!

Blog hopping again, I stumbled upon the blog of someone named ELAY. So what’s big deal about it? Why I’m making fuss over it. Maybe I thought that name is unique and only my sis is using it as n-name. So I checked out on it [who knows she might have been my sis] and she is up graduate. Definitely not my sis. But still curious about her so I read some of her entry and at some moment I became confused again. She made an entry about her sis blog who greet her happy b-day and a message.

Let me quote it:

"…we are the two sides of the same coin, she's in the north pole, i enjoy being in the south. we're oil and water, in simple words: we can't be together."

Well believe it or not the highlighted words were the same message I gave my sis in her friendster.

The other elay who owns the blog celebrate her b-day on May 29 while my sis elay celebrate it every 22^nd of the same month. Her sis is older than her [she called her ate] and I’m older than my sis [her "ate"].

Maybe the name elay isn’t unique…

Maybe it’s just coincidence that the older sis of elays' has the same thought and using the same words…

That there’s 2 elay celebrating their b-day on the same month and one of them is just a week ahead. [odd pero kakatuwa]

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To improve communication skills one has to have high self esteem.

“…one has to feel good about him and the role he performed in life.”

When you feel good about yourself you exude a positive feeling for others. Thus, people around you will be more responsive to what you say. So this is what to do. Make a point of appreciating yourself for you are and not just what you can do. How? Be willing to accept praise from people around you and be kinder to yourself when things do not workout.

Haaay… sometimes you know what to do and how to get things done but when you start doing it you suddenly forgot everything because your nerves get into you and from just mist in your brain it became a fog. Then you feel crap and all the single optimism you’ve got for yourself is vanished.

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Cont. article says," To communicate more impact you must be congruent. Make a point of always doing what you say you will and find ways of aligning what you want in life." It is easy to have goals, plans or even dreams but you know as people, I tend to be lazy and with a lot of interruptions like doing unimportant things and not in connection with the plans. I lack follow through and sometimes I’m not noticing it. After all I can always catch up some other day. By putting it off until another day and neglecting to use what I have learned my plans didn’t push through, goals is hard to achieve and my dreams becomes vague.

And as for me communicating to others is hard to do since I need to share something good about life and my own life and I couldn’t share any not because I don’t like but because I’m not in good position to talk about it. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the life that God has gave me and how he makes it good with the help of my family. To make it clearer I’m very much dependent to them financially and emotionally.

My world revolves around them for the past years and will still be the same but I want to expand more so I can share something too.

one of the nice things about blog hopping you stumble upon fantastic ideas, great things, wonderful stories, and good writings like this one.

Things learned from inter gender friendships
By Mariel G. Calalo
YOU contributor

THE PREMISE of this article lies on the principle that sometimes, loving a person doesn't mean it has to be romantic and loving a person for the rest of your life doesn't mean you have to end up marrying them. Can a man and a woman just be friends? I'd say yes and they should be.

Hindi dahil kinaibigan ka, liligawan ka na. Not every guy who befriends you has an ulterior motive. Get over yourself. Don't flatter yourself. There is a reason why he befriended you, but don't automatically assume that it's because he wants to be your so-called boyfriend. If this will be the principle you'll follow every time someone asks you to be his friend, you're gonna miss a great deal from the friendship.

Hindi dahil mabait sa iyo, nililigawan ka na. There are people who are naturally sweet and kind. There are people who are innately good and no matter how wicked you seem, they just find it so easy to be kind to you. It doesn't mean he is courting you. Don't put yourself through unnecessary stress trying to figure out if he's courting you or not. Because I think if he is, you won't have to guess, you'll know and you'll be very certain about it.

Hindi dahil he talks to you a lot, he loves you na. You don't befriend a person if you absolutely abhor him, right? Chances are you make sense when he talks to you, or you're probably very patient listening to him. The two of you probably connect on some level but why does it always have to be assumed to be romantic? Being two intelligent, mature human beings, you need to accept that it's nice to share a cup of coffee over a stimulating conversation, and that you don't have to automatically put romantic connotation to it. Relieve yourself of the pressure. It's just coffee and a shared interest.

Hindi dahil cute ang friend mo, crush/love mo na siya. This is the most amusing thing that hit me lately. People always assume that because your friend is cute or should I say, hot (because cute is a word you describe your high school crush while hot is a word you use to describe a hunk), "lakas amats mo na for repapips!" Let me just say this, at least from my own personal experience, I'm just nearsighted, I haven't gone blind. I can still appreciate God's creation! However, there will always be weird things, crazy things, stupid things that will keep you, believe me, from having a crush on him. First of all, you'd know his history with women, enough to judge what's good for you. Second, don't you just hate it when a guy who's absolutely always put together, who looks intelligent enough pronounces the word country as "kawntri" and the word mango as "meynggo." Call me crazy for judging a person just because he can't pronounce these words right. I admit, I'm crazy.

Hindi dahil you hang out with each other most of the time, you'd end up being boyfriend-girlfriend. Self-explanatory... There are a thousand, no million different reasons why things don't always turn out that way. There is no one proven formula.

A dinner with a guy friend does not necessarily mean equate to a date. Especially if you're paying for your share no! Hello? Three things to consider: the place, the topic and how the two of you actually planned to meet. First, how it was planned. If it were a date expect that he would ask you out at least three days before the actual date to give you some lead time, to give you the notion that you are not just a filler on his schedule. Second, the place. If it were a real date, the both of you would want real food and a place where you could really talk things through. Don't go out with a guy to a movie on Friday night if you're really serious about him. Going to a movie is more like treating him like a "filler" just because you had nothing to do on a Friday night so you might as well go out. Topic. Ha! You wouldn't be talking about chikang artista, chikang opisina or argue if the one girl's boobs are real or not. You would be probably talking about sensible, quite personal stuff.

I conclude that platonic relationships are never complicated; people just have tendencies to complicate them.

what you think? thanks to angela for sharing this. sorry for copying without permission.